I met a woman on-line and its going great but it is long distance Over the past year he has been leaving me in the dark about a lot of stuff. Sometimes all it takes is to know someone believes in you to find the strength. I did however have enough control of my wits to get a lawyer and try to speak for my innocence in court. Thanks, If she ever contacts you again say this, never talk to me again. I dont know how to be strong. There are thousands, probably even millions of people in the world right now whove been through this situation. Everyone says it gets better but I can see myself 19 years from now crying and asking why as well. "My husband left me because he was unhappy" can be a common thought when you're struggling with such abandonment. Any words of inspiration would be appreciated, although the way Im feeling right now, I dont know if they would be of any comfort. But I did it and discovered 2 empty bottles of butane. With no signs no reason why just said he had to go he had to do it. Im trying to take it one day at s time but the anxiety is tough I keep ruminating and worrying about the future.i just keep telling myself for now its hard but Ive got to keep it together for my kids, Hi I dont hate him, in fact I care for him, but we have absolutely no similar interests. He created us & gave us a plan to follow (bible). He is on disability because of multiple chemical sensitivity. The visits start again My case is not the only abuse of this restraining order trick. Remember that God doesnt give us more than we can handle-and he must think that you can handle a lot. Latter he leaves the house and stay for days, some times weeks without telling me his whereabouts. But, the remarkable thing that I want to share, pertinent to this discussion, and the particular issue of people who just *wont/cant* get over a particularly traumatic breakup/abandonment is this: AS A BY-PRODUCT OF THE SUCCESS OF THE NEURONTIN ON MY PHYSICAL PAIN, THE OTHER THING THAT AMAZINGLY DISAPPEARED, WAS THE PAIN AND OBSESSION OF THAT THIRTY-YEAR TORCH I WAS CARRYING. As woman we must always trust our gut, I wish I had so many times. ? He had no good reason and said we dont like the same things which made no sense to me at all. Now he stops communicating with anyone that tries to talk him in to reconciliation. I am because I see him for who he is and I cannot pretend anymore, and that is a problem. Wife of 22 years left 2 weeks ago because she decided she was gay and had reciprocal feelings towards our best female friend. I dont doubt she cares for you, but you cannot have your cake and eat it too. I am in a long distance relationship and it is hard but I hope to move there next year I feel it to.. Im going to my parents for thanksgiving, but have a rocky relationship with them as it is, so this should be fun. What can ido to ease her pain and stop from having a second divorce? me & my bf were 2gether 8 years & i found a conversation on his tablet telling a girl he loves her & all this stuff.. i was willing 2 work it out but he told me he hasnt been happy 4 the past year & hes not in love with me anymore & hes bored.. i was devastated, a total wreck.. he moved 2 PA with his family while he waits 4 the girl 2 move there in April.. we still text as friends but it gets really hard as I cant talk about his new gf.. i am far from over it but i do want 2 be his friend, possibly more if we can work it out.. after he left i started taking care of myself & all that pampering stuff.. well, i came 2 the conclusion that i dont want his a** back.. she can keep him, i hope they will be very happy.. im done.. he left him crying & pleading, left me.. i was faithful 8 years, i adored him, worshipped the ground he walked on.. i work, i just got a truck, im sweet as candy & i deserve better.. we keep texting as friends & sometimes we still flirt a bit but its not like that.. he played Me, the best thing that ever happened 2 him & im slowly getting over it.. i know im great & i deserve greatness so whatever dude.. ur loss.. The last thing you want to do is spend it with a happily married couple or try to entertain your child while you meet your child-free friend for coffee and a chat. (more time is spent telling your child to sit down/stop that/behave). Common I tried police, child services, court all backfired in my face and I lost them all together for 7 months I WILL NOT get anything like that involved again as I have absolutely no faith in it. Now she was gone two weeks and something was different. Shes not even close to the same sweet beautiful kind hearted soul I once knew. What the heck am I supposed to do now. In love relationships between two adults, though, shared power is healthier than a one-up, one-down power imbalance. Two days later I went and begged for another chance.she said yes and we spent what I thought was a day filled with renewed spirit, touching holding talking. Hi Cassie I was paralyzed, I couldnt stop thing about her about us about him about our kids about the hell they were living in. But things with him have never been logical. His behavior is classic. I always stood by her even with her legal issues and her mental problems. She told our three kids she was leaving before I got back from extended combat training at joint base dix. I said that i am going to the car and he followed me and said if you leave i am calling an attorney on Monday and i am so sick and tired of you. Well I went deer hunting with our son and had left her at the house with our daughter which was in 7 th grade at the time. The message is so strong and clear when there is infidelity, unlike opaque reasons such as boredom or lack of compatibility. She moved out fast and said I needed time to work on myself as well. We are both 60, we have a son of 23 and a daughter of 20 about to go to uni. She didnt deserve any of this.. We started dating at 17 and married at 25. How are you feeling today? Depression is difficult to combat and resolve alone. A few weeks have now passed and Xmas has come and gone and no kids for me, nothing. Its been over a year. No marriage is perfect.you take the good with bad.and we had alot of good. Its gotten really wild and way more frequent! I was unable to get over a relationship Id had, for THIRTY years! I have yet to get the call to come sign them. People like this need to be shipped to separate country/island where this is acceptable. Guest blog from 'Paul' - a man whose marriage ended because of his wife's menopause. It is really hard. I know your heart is broken, but you need to understand that your husband may have left because he was unhappy and wanted something better. Husband walked out a week before thanksgiving on our three kids and me. Jacob While its normal and noble to immediately feel like you would be willing and able to get over this infidelity its important that you know one thing. Is he depressed and hating life? I asked my wife to meet me when she got off work which was later and later than years ago. I am reeling. And although I honestly did not ever intend to hurt her, I can see where she would be hurt. This podcast explores all things love and relationships. My issue is that once she wants to leave (imminent), he dosent reciprocate and then she comes back what do I do? Its hard to give up thinking they will come back. Now that I have the courage and confidence to speak out about my story I want to inspire others through Mint Movement, a community for single parents. My betrayer ? What happened? This is his second time. I think its horrid because they are not educated and working as a medical professional in the industry they are giving really bad advice. Ive just found out hes been messaging an ex alot but swears only messaging. I tried under the circumstances but we need temporary help moving forward.. And more, Only 5? How to cope: If this is the reason for your divorce or breakup, you probably had a good go of it. I have never felt so betrayed in my life and never would of thought I would become a statistic. My partner of 7 year left me 10 weeks ago, She is 40 and i am 47 and she had an affair when with a guy i know who is 49 after her father died. But she left me with all unnecessary fear and stick to her parents decisions who doesnt know the ground reality but imagineIm praying to god please pray for me. How to cope: Try not to take too much of a righteous or moral stance. He wanted to book a holiday for me and my daughter( not his child bit they have become so close she shes him and loves him like s dad) and stay in the house with us pretend everything was fine and tell my daughter before we went away that we were splitting up and he would be gone when we got back,!! Im not happy being left out. Completely unaware of what had transpired I was thinking we really needed to talk. My grandmother raised 3 girls on her own as a widower at just 42. He has never served me, and has filed for two extensions for the filing. Theyve only been talking for weeks and he thinks he has fallen in love with this person. I still cant understand why, all this is happening. I am devastated we have 3 children and one doing his GCSEs I am a mess my daughter keeps questioning me and Im trying to hold it together but Im in so much pain and I cant imagine my life without him This one has been definitely the hardest for me to deal with. I have 2 ds and am left absolutely distraught. All you have to do is think about the things youre good at and all the times youve helped others. Its just interesting that two years went by and he never once mentioned anything about being unhappy since the former conversation but felt justified to leave because he had a conversation two years prior to him leaving. my wife just left me refused to talk or tell our two children and left it all to me in the midst of all my anger and hurt this has caused my kids to completely disown their mother even thou I have asked and beg them to have contact and an on going relationship with her . We met at school and Im not ready for what happened, she just left for our friend. So sorry to hear this..:( I have been with wife for 18 years and she wants a divorce. Can you imagine getting kicked out of your home and your husband moves someone else in and they go through your things, even my Breast Cancer medical records trying to say I could work because I survived, Im 60 and have worked since 1969!! Dont believe it. He did not handle all of it well and went behind my back and hired an attorney, took a large amount of money out of our savings and then a couple months later filed for divorce, all while living with me and our family, going to counseling and being intimate with me. My therapist said I may never get an answer and for my black-and-white brain is a little difficult. She will not put in any effort whatsoever and couldnt imagine being the same family we pretended to be all week on the weekend. Love yourself first before you love others. Now is dating a married woman who walked out on her husband and kids to be with mine. I dont know who to treat him. We have two children together. It took me about 6 months before I tried to get help and went to therapy. Even if there appears on the surface to be an obvious and uncomfortable reason, your brain will search for answers that feel satisfying and rational. I took very care for her than I took for anybody else. Theyre also communities where you can help other members solve their problems. Our new counselor really seems to understand our real issue, which is communication on a very big level. I hope things are going a little better. He is not the man I have been with for the last 15 years If you would like to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, http://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area. When he did come home, often after 9 months abroad, he would turn his back on me in bed . I actually became suicidal because I was so worried about what I . Can anyone help? Anyway things bumbled along for about 2 years then her new best friend decided to came on to me which I thought was a joke at first as that sort of thing never happens to me (my wife is the pretty one). Yes, God wants you to be happy, but not at the expense of the greater good that HE knows needs to happen. thanks cassieD.I still call her every day just to hear her voice.I am waiting on a settlement from injuries that i received at work,Which i cannot return to because of the extent of them.She agreed to not seek lawyers or Divorce until my settlement comes through.I am still on her Ins.I also need my knees totally replaced.She agreed to wait until the settlement.I dont know i am so naive and blind.I dont want to think that she is going to take my settlement also.Maby thats why she is waiting to get the big D word until after she knows what the money will be. Im no angel to live with but I always saw us together until the end. Is there something wrong with me. I want to believe that it is all a nightmare and that she will wake me up any moment and forgive my past I just have to take the bruise to the heart hearing it and suck it up, thats what its been left to. Depressed partners regret leaving very often, yes, but it should not be a pattern. How do I get thru this pain? You may click to view our members full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. I could never disapline them. All of a sudden we move and after 32 years of marriage, recently he left with a girl who is my youngest daughters age her late 20s. I wonder if he's OK. My wife began threatening me with divorce over little things years ago. I know that was never her intention to use me, thats just not her. She told me she is falling for another man. Im saying this to let you know that you are not the only one. April 22, 2022, 1:05 am. My actually became a Judge in another County. Hey, My husband left me on 10-14-15, after 2years of being married says he found the person he had been looking for since he been in Florida, what I dont understand is why marry someone if you were looking for someone else??? She isnt in love with me anymore. Hello, I have a question about coping with my wife leaving me for someone else. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time, and our phone number is 888-563-2112. She went to her mothers. My husband is in the military and has spent alot of time away from us because of deployments and travel. Few years back as a woman in her mid-40s she had an affair with and 18 year old from the church and declared in a violent rage it was my fault for not making her happy Yikes! Part of me suspects my wife is one of the mentioned types who craves new love all the time. A condition in and of itself is not a reason to . Either that or he will be here to stay. I wasnt happy, i was controlled, questioned put up with his temper for long enough. He said there was no one else and now he is back in his country parading around with someone else whom I have heard he plans to marry. She is married too and both of us have two small children. He hasnt come home in over two months. My fianc and I live far away from each other and maybe see each other every other weekend. The relationship was most likely very comfortable and good in many ways, but trust that you will rekindle some of your romantic spark and realize that your marriage was unfulfilling. They sent phony legal documents to my mom, son and even my lawyer?? At some point its not worth wondering about your spouse because you can never really rationalize behavior that stems from this kind of illness. Whether you broke up with them or they broke up with you, a breakup can leave you feeling heartbroken. I encourage you to read up on personality disorders: maybe its the same with your husband. He told me not to cry, he couldnt handle it. They have always talked and been friends through this whole separation. A common example would be a major medical illness. Its the idealistic lovethe one that seems like the fairy tales we read as children. They are in a place where they dont have any clarity and theyre in the middle of a crisis. Each counselor has said the same thing, he is focused on himself. I know it hurts, my husband left me too. this is two months of my ugly experience.
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